92 Sultana Ave, North York, ON M6A 1T3, Canada | Free Consultation
Couples Therapy
Do You Feel Misunderstood Or Disconnected In Your Relationship?
Are you having trouble communicating and resolving conflicts with your partner? Do you feel like you're stuck in the same arguments, unable to find common ground? Is the lack of emotional or physical intimacy making you wish your relationship was more like it used to be? Has there been infidelity or a breach of trust, and you're unsure how to heal and move forward?
​
Maybe there’s a growing sense of disinterest with your partner—moments where their presence doesn’t feel as fulfilling or exciting as it once did.
​
Whether you are looking to learn better ways to communicate or want to heal injuries that have occurred in your relationship, couples therapy can provide that support. Working with a couple’s therapist will help you improve your communication, and intimacy, or navigate certain areas of disagreement.
Love Isn’t Always Easy—It Takes Work
Relationships aren’t always easy, and it’s normal to face challenges along the way. But when those challenges start to affect your peace of mind, the connection you share with your partner, and how you navigate daily life, it may signal that your relationship can use some attention.
​
Maybe you’re experiencing the following:
-
Trying to connect but feeling distant
-
Constant conflict and loneliness
-
Frustration with repetitive issues
-
Feeling disrespected or uncared for
Having a third party present can help partners hear and understand what each other is trying to express from a fresh perspective. In a sense, your therapist can “speak both languages,” bridging the communication gap and helping each other gain insight into the other person’s experiences and challenges in a way that resonates. Couples Therapy with Creating Connections Counselling Services can facilitate meaningful change and growth in your relationship.
Related Posts
Every Couple Experiences Ups And Downs
Challenges in relationships are incredibly common. People either choose to address them or let them linger, but it's completely normal for conflict to arise. Our histories—such as past relationships, childhood experiences, and other environmental factors—shape the dynamics within a partnership, influencing what a couple’s problems may look like.
​
Our day-to-day activities cause many of us to focus on the surface issues, without digging into the deeper family or relationship-related factors that may be driving those challenges. Fortunately, there is a way to explore and address these core issues— and thereby experience a relationship rich in love, renewed intimacy, and newfound peace.
Society Has No Rulebook For Navigating The Challenges of Relationships
In today’s society, relationships are often misunderstood. People aren’t given a handbook on how to navigate, manage, and communicate effectively within them. Many believe relationships are meant to be 50/50, but this mindset can be a stumbling block.
​
The truth is, that relationships are rarely a perfect 50/50 split. We all have different strengths, weaknesses, and energy levels, which means the balance often shifts—sometimes it’s 30/70, other times 90/10. Real partnership is about compromise and meeting your partner where they are at.
​
Relationships go through cycles, and certain challenges or patterns may resurface over time, requiring ongoing understanding and flexibility. On some days, you might only have 30% to give, and your partner carries the rest. On other days, they may only manage 10%, and you step in to cover the difference.
​
A strong relationship isn’t about keeping score; it’s about showing up for each other as you are, recognizing when your partner needs support, and being willing to provide it. And if both of you feel like you don’t have enough to reach 100 together, it’s about creating a plan rooted in kindness—choosing not to hurt each other, even when neither of you can fully show up as you’d like to.
​
Couples counselling will offer you more than just a space to resolve issues – it will provide you with a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamics and tools you can use to nurture ongoing and lasting balance.
Couples Therapy Creates Space For Healing And Renewal
Therapy offers a safe space for couples to openly and honestly address the challenges in their relationship without fear of judgment. Our role isn’t to take sides – we’re here to listen to both partners and guide you in working together to strengthen your relationship.
During sessions, we focus on helping you understand the patterns and dynamics that contribute to conflict and support you in resolving them as a team. Along the way, we provide tools to manage differences, bridge emotional distance, and navigate opposing perspectives.​
The process begins with a joint session, followed by individual meetings with each partner. This allows us to gain a well-rounded understanding of the unique struggles each individual within the couple is facing. From there, your therapist will support you in identifying the core patterns within the relationship and establish techniques to shift these dynamics, fostering greater connection and lasting change.
Our Approach To Couples Therapy at Creating Connections Counselling Services
​In our couples counselling sessions, we draw from a variety of approaches to address relationship challenges and foster deeper connections. The main modalities we incorporate include:
Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT)
This approach serves as the foundation of our couples therapy work. EFT focuses on identifying and understanding the emotions that drive conflict. By addressing the core beliefs, thoughts, and feelings under the surface of the conflict. Utilizing the principles of EFT allows our couples therapist to support you in resolving your challenges at their root, fostering more meaningful relationships and a deeper, stronger connection.
Family Systems Theory
​​
Relationships don’t exist in isolation. Family Systems Theory helps couples explore how their family dynamics and family environments shape their interactions. Whether through learned behaviors, role expectations, or patterns that have developed within the family system, understanding your relationship structure can reveal and iron out the dynamics that may contribute to your current relationship challenges.
Attachment Theory
Our early attachments, often formed in childhood, significantly shape how we engage in adult relationships. By exploring these patterns, partners can uncover how past experiences influence the way they connect with and respond to each other. Learning to recognize these tendencies as they come up in your relationship allows couples to build healthier, more secure attachments.
Additionally, for couples in counselling who are struggling to communicate, we focus on incorporating communication techniques to improve understanding and connection. This involves learning each other’s "language," recognizing how misunderstandings arise, and developing skills to express thoughts and feelings more clearly.
​
Whether you're newly married, preparing for marriage, dating, cohabiting, in a same-sex relationship, or a long-term partnership facing new transitions—like expecting a child, raising teenagers, managing financial differences, or relocating—couples therapy can be a transformative step toward strengthening your relationship. It offers a valuable opportunity to grow together, enhance communication, and create a more fulfilling and resilient future as a team.
Perhaps You Are Considering Couples Therapy But Still Have Some Questions…
I’m worried that talking about our issues in therapy will make things worse.
It’s common to feel like every time you try to address your relationship struggles, it only leads to more conflict. This happens because you’re both caught in the same patterns – the same "dance." Working with a couples therapist will allow you to recreate a new dance together that can help you walk through challenges with helpful tools by your side. The clearest path is through the heart of the challenge – but with a skilled couples therapist at your side, you will be able to all walk together through each step until you find clarity and calm on the other side.
We’ve tried counselling before, and we’re still having the same challenges. How will this be any different?
We can imagine you’re feeling frustrated and just want something to help your relationship. We commend you for not giving up and for trying again. There are so many different couples therapists out there with many perspectives and ways of supporting their clients. We start from where you are–drawing from what you’ve already learned, what’s been attempted, and what didn’t quite land. This isn’t about starting over but building on the foundation you’ve already laid. Together, we’ll tailor a process that speaks to your unique relationship needs and helps create meaningful change.
​
I’m concerned about the cost of therapy.
We understand that finances can be a concern, and we encourage open conversations with your therapist about the time and energy you can realistically commit. If you have supplementary insurance, our sessions are often fully or partially covered by most plans. Since couples therapy benefits both partners, sessions can typically be billed under both your and your partner’s insurance in order to maximize your insurance coverage.
​
If you don’t have insurance coverage, you may be able to claim therapy expenses as a tax-deductible medical expense. Therapy is an investment in your relationship, well-being, and future together. Even a short-term commitment can lead to lasting positive changes. Like any meaningful effort, nurturing your relationship requires dedication, but the rewards—greater understanding, deeper connection, and long-term harmony—are well worth it.
Your Relationship Can Flourish
You don’t have to feel frustrated, misunderstood, or alone in your relationship. The passion, vibrancy, and excitement you once shared can be reignited. You and your partner can rediscover a love that feels alive. At Creating Connections Counselling Services, couples therapy can help you achieve this and more. We offer online sessions designed to support couples on their healing journey.
​
If you're curious about how therapy can help, feel free to call (416) 871-1207 or schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation. We’d be happy to connect and explore how we can work together.